About Brothers

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To view my article on the best age gap to have between children go to:

http://EzineArticles.com/?id=3819376

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Why do some brothers love each others whilst others can’t stand each other?

I am a mother with 3 boys and I wonder what is it that effects the relationship boys have with their brothers? The men in my life that have brothers all have varied relationships with their siblings. Most cases the boys are totally different to their brother so they don’t actually hang out/do things together but they do have an underlying loyalty to their brother. Then there are some cases where the boys have a common interest and love hanging out with each other, it’s like their brother is their best friend.

What I want for my boys is that they care for each other, not necessarily be best friends, although that would be lovely, I really just want to make sure that they have a loyality for each other. As a mother I am wondering what it is I can do, do make sure this happens? Or is it something where a parent can not guide/assist in? I know that the boys personality has a lot to do with it, ie. If there is one that is really competitive it may make their relationship strained but there is probably some way I can provide a good footing for them to respect each other and enjoy each others company?

Yesterday I attempted to do combined play with my two youngest (2.5yr old and a 1 yr old)  I was constantly on guard telling the older one to not get so upset when the little destroyed the half built train track, or telling the little one to “just look” no touch!!! I was thinking there has to be a better way for me to guide this play in a way that they will have a respect for each others space and feelings. Sometimes I get glimmers of hope as the little one hands back the toy he has just snatched of the eldest or seeing the eldest “help” the little one with the activity they are on, perhaps it  is something that learn from each other – they discover the boundaries within their relationship and build on it???

Happy Birthday Zac!!

My little boy had his first birthday on the weekend. Where has the time gone??

I was a little worried how Archie (his 2.5 year old brother) would go on the day as the focus was all going to be on Zac. Days before Archie saw the balloons, party hats so was getting physiced for the big day. When the presents arrived, Zac actually had no real interest and didn’t care that Archie “helped” open the presents so all in all it went really well and Archie and Zac are both enjoying the new toys.

It’s funny how I spend so much time worrying about things that never eventuate.

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Hello,

This is where I will add my experiences as a mother with 3 sons. My boys are 1 years old 2.5 years old and my stepson is 8.5 years old. I work part time (2 days a week) and the rest of my time is spent wondering how on earth I am going to raise these boys to be happy, healthy men.

To be honest I never really wanted a daughter so was really happy when I ended up with 3 sons. I do think mother daughters have a wonderful bond and I am sad that I wont have that but I really hope that my boys bring home wonderful daughter in laws for me one day

I have 3 very different boys in my life, so although there is advice out there on boys in general, I know that each son can be VERY DIFFERENT. In summary here are my 3 boys.

8.5 year old – Angel, absolute heart of gold, he is so caring, obedient, loving and kind. Which is funny as one of his favourite things to do is play war games, fighting games, shoot em ups, wrestle – anything violent or gruesome!!

2.5 year old – hmmmm well is it the terrible two’s or is it him!!! He loves a whinge, loves to push my buttons, loves to see how long he can stay up.

1 year old – An absolute bruiser, he climbs on everything, bumps, bruises you name it he has it. He is a rolly polly boy with a wonderful laugh. He loves his food and sleep which makes life easy.

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